Yes, “WTF!!??” moment. Not the strange messages, or the odd pictures you see on these free sites (I think that tends to be the norm.) This was a truly “WTF!!??” moment, and I think I said it out loud too.
It’s the message you share with your friends to make sure you’re not a complete moron. The message that your friends don’t get either.
Backstory: I see a picture of this guy, TOTALLY my type physically. Like completely. Cute, classic style, so I clicked on his profile and read through it. It was thoughtful, a bit snarky, basically reminded me of myself and all of the people that I love to hang out with rolled into one. SCORE! Am I right? And the best part is we both picked “Meet Me” on each other. (Specific feature to the site I use.) So what do I do? One, wait to see if he messages me first. That didn’t happen, so I put on my big girl pants and write a message. (Which I NEVER do on my own. This was the first message TO someone I’ve written.)
MY message:
Hey,
I’ve been trying to figure out how to word this without sounding like a creep or a loser, but I like your profile. How you describe yourself comes off very genuine and respectful, and it’s really attractive. You sound very similar to me in certain ways. (I could describe it all here, but it’s in my profile, if you’re curious. I hate describing myself on these things over and over.)
What type of music do you listen to? (Sorry if it’s a dumb question, I want to learn more about you, and it seems like a simple starting point.)
-Lauren
Innocent, right? I tried thinking about the messages I actually respond to, and tried to make it thoughtful, and I asked about something he didn’t put in his profile. Ha, I was apparently SOOOO wrong.
HIS reply:
I’ve realized meeting online and in a bar shouldn’t be any more different than they have to be, most differences being good. So I hate to come off superficial when I say I wouldn’t invest in a woman at a bar who I couldn’t see well because of an interesting pickup line. We all assess more than just the words we say to entice one another. There is demeanor, posture, style, hygiene, and all that comes with it. There is a lot to be said for pictures beyond a weight check as it is often assumed to be exclusively. Though I cannot fault anyone for asking simply to avoid the surprise pounds, I’ve been mislead before. It borders on deception and thats no way to begin a date. Its no different than lying about smoking and pulling one out after you meet or writing about about being a kind and caring person and snapping your fingers at a waiter. As unappealing as the trait may be, its far better to be upfront and attract those who are attracted to who we are, not who we want to be seen as.
Um, WHAT. ?? !! HUH????? Hello gorgeous man, WHAT THE EFF ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY TO ME?? I’m not a simpleton, I hope not. I’m capable of intelligent conversation, but I can’t seem to decipher your message! I HAVE A COLLEGE DEGREE!! SPEAK ENGLISH, SIR! Intelligence is attractive, but I need to be able to understand what you are saying!
I mean, at first I thought I was being rejected in the most asshole way possible. Now I’m thinking he wrote an entire paragraph asking for another picture? I’m not sure, and I don’t want to risk looking like an idiot. I’m so tempted to respond with a passive “Whatever, dude.” because I don’t know how else to respond!!!
Can someone please translate douchebag-pseudo-intellegent for me? I don’t speak it very well.
